13th August 2009 – Random thing about me: Fact 11

Written on August 13, 2009 – 6:15 pm | by BryonyParkes |

I’ve finally got a photo to represent number 11 on the list!

“11) I am currently researching into training to become a breastfeeding counsellor”

I’m really pleased with the photo for this one, baby in shot is the gorgeous 5 month old Harry, and his Mum is my very good and close friend, the amazing Deaf Flautist Ruth Montgomery. I wanted a calm, loving shot, breastfeeding a child is such a special thing to do and I wanted a photo to reflect that. I think it works well in black and white, although the light is shining a little too much on his head. I perhaps should have had a wider aperture as I think if his little fingers, grabbing hold of his mum were in focus too it’d have made the picture.

Well, it’s been some time since I wrote the list that I am now working on. When I wrote it, I wasn’t having any problems breastfeeding the Small One, I think she was only teeny at the time and we were still in a cloud of newborn bliss! But since then it all went wrong. Regular readers of my blog may remember a few weeks ago, me talking of my poor baby doing a lot of crying and some stressful times with Colic and Reflux, well the medication for Reflux has to be administered in a bottle. I tried for some time, to keep up, expressing milk for her but I had to admit defeat after about a month, as I just couldn’t keep up. I’ve found it really hard, to come to terms with how hard I found breastfeeding this time round when I was so sure it’d be easy as I had experience after having fed the Big One, and I had lots of time off work to get it established long term. I didn’t count in the possibility of any medical problems however, so it took me by surprise a bit when Evie was in so much pain (we now know, from the acids the Reflux was bringing up).

I believe, heart and soul that breastfeeding is one of the most wonderful things you can do for a baby. I understand that it’s not for everyone, and that is absolutely fine in the same way that cloth nappies, co-sleeping, dressing a girl head to toe in pink, isn’t for for everyone. But if you can, then GOOD FOR YOU. It is the most natural thing in the world, gives baby plentiful of goodness, immunity, helps with bonding, helps mum lose weight and best of all is FREE! Whoop whoop!

Anyway, as it happened in the end, the Small One was breastfed exclusively for 5.5 months, then formula was introduced in order to get the Gaviscon into her. Now, at 6.5 months she’s primarily formula fed, but I am pleased to say she still has the very occasional breastfeed. I really wanted to breastfeed her for as long as possible, I wanted her to be exclusively breastfed until she was 6 months old and weaning onto solid food started. It wasn’t to be though, and I’ve lost a bit of faith in myself hence not sure if I can do the breastfeeding counsellor stuff anymore. I’ve not ruled the idea out altogether though, I’ve been told that it doesn’t have to be exclusively that you feed for 6 months (you need 6 months breastfeeding “experience” before you can apply for the course), so perhaps if I can come to learn that I did the best thing for my baby at the end of the day, therefore formula was necessary, but you did a bloody good job in the meantime… then I could still do the course.

Thinking more about it, I realise that I’d love to be available to help new mum’s with breastfeeding confidence, helping get it established, hopefully increase the number of mum’s breastfeeding on the whole. (The statistics in this country are so low). So many new mums don’t try, or give up after just a week or so due to lack of support and I want to be there to help them if they are struggling but want to continue. I particularly would like to help Deaf mums, I feel that we get even less support as it’s harder for us to access information and follow health professionals.

So there you go, a bit of personal information about me divulged there! Treat me nicely now ;o)

Before I go, I want to point you in the direction of a photographer friend of mine, Lisa Fellows and her recent blog post about World Breastfeeding week. Her photographs of the infants being breastfed are stunning,  and after I had taken the one of Harry above, I realised that it was of a similar style to Lisa’s amazing shots so wanted to credit her and bring your attention to her work.

Photo taken at 1/100 F/2.0

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